How I Went From Shy to Less Shy
I was pushed to it mainly when I started my job. Before, I wouldn't say I was too shy but unsure, uncertain in many things. Still like being the teenager and not an adult so how to argue with them about something which they should know better just because they live longer. Also when meeting new people, it's not that I was totally quiet but I was holding back with my opinion in first place and even more with private stories. You never know if they may talk you over or try to use it against you. The lack of self esteem is something normal at an younger age I believe, at least it was it for me, but when I had to take ownership for my work I was quickly getting more and more confident. Not only in business where you develop a kind of knowledge about your business but also for me as private person. Part of my job was and still is to work with people around the world and its not a fixed team for the next ten years, no, it's changing, sometimes very quickly. New team members, new staff hired, new clients, things and people are moving and to adapt to this world you need to develop a style of getting along with all these changes and cultural differences. I can never expect that one client is working as the other and for my internal staff I realize that the e.g. hungarian team member is not working exactly in the same way as the israelian even if it is exactly the same job. To be honest, I like it, it's sometimes driving me crazy but most of the time I'm happy to be in the position to meet so many different persons. I learned a lot for my life even if some tasks like holding a speech in front of several persons was scaring me in the beginning. Learning while doing is the best as you have to go through it and I can say that it was always a lesson learned for me and I was proud when it went good. So no reason to be scared, you will be proud afterwards when it went fine and if not you will have learned what to change for the next time. Another important part for me was to get used to write and talk English as this is the main language in my business. When I started I had my school English plus a few books I read, nowadays I'm talking as if I never did anything else, this may not be perfect and there may be mistakes but I'm neither an English teacher nor a native speaker, as long as the main part is ok and people are able to understand what I'm saying or writing I'm fine. Ad why do I title this post "...from shy to less shy" - am I only less shy? You could assume I'm not shy at all now but the truth is, I'm still a bit shy and it's good that way. But it's something I know, I'm pretty good in hiding it so that most of the people are not realizing that part. It's not visible, it's like my inner shield telling me to be cautious or careful. I'm not the one talking about every single moment of my life as long as I don't know the person in front of me. Sometimes not even when I knew them better for good reasons, as we all know not all people are nice just because they act in a nice way and I never was the person who wants to be topic during lunch for others. The less I talk about me, the less they have to talk about me. Only a well picked small circle of friends knows how I am really and they don't even know everything - that's enough. I learned to never arm people with information to use it against me one day. But what counts the most as always is to stay yourself and to be authentic.
Keep the faith and take care!
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Sunday, October 28, 2012
Saturday, October 27, 2012
My favorite...body oil
My favorite...body oil
When I went to Parrot Cay back in 2008 we stayed at the Como Shambhala Resort on this island and that was the first time I got into contact with their own beauty series.
Besides the fact that I like almost all products my absolutely favorite is the "Como Shambhala Invigorate Body Oil".
The scent is seducing, it's a mixture of several essential oils, biological ingredients and it is smelling like a spa version of mainly lavender, sweet almond, peppermint and eucalyptus.
When the bottle was empty I was searching on how to buy it being back in Germany. As a shipment from the Turks and Caicos islands wasn't my first thought. It's not too cheap and I didn't want to pay a fortune on it. Google helped and I haven't expected that there is really a shop in Munich selling it. Lucky me! I don't use it daily, it is something special and thats how I treat it. A 100ml bottle is lasting several months, sometimes I just pour a few drops into my body lotion which is neutral, this is a nice way to save it for a longer period.
But for all who want to try it also, my best tip is the following webpage: http://www.cultbeauty.co.uk/
This page is addictive as you find products there which are not available everywhere and this is something I like.
They don't sell the body but the massage oil which is even better (ingredients are exactly the same). I just rub a bit onto my skin and the scent is surrounding you within seconds. For me always a short time-out and also nice to calm down before I sleep. I love this scent!
When I went to Parrot Cay back in 2008 we stayed at the Como Shambhala Resort on this island and that was the first time I got into contact with their own beauty series.
Besides the fact that I like almost all products my absolutely favorite is the "Como Shambhala Invigorate Body Oil".
The scent is seducing, it's a mixture of several essential oils, biological ingredients and it is smelling like a spa version of mainly lavender, sweet almond, peppermint and eucalyptus.
When the bottle was empty I was searching on how to buy it being back in Germany. As a shipment from the Turks and Caicos islands wasn't my first thought. It's not too cheap and I didn't want to pay a fortune on it. Google helped and I haven't expected that there is really a shop in Munich selling it. Lucky me! I don't use it daily, it is something special and thats how I treat it. A 100ml bottle is lasting several months, sometimes I just pour a few drops into my body lotion which is neutral, this is a nice way to save it for a longer period.
But for all who want to try it also, my best tip is the following webpage: http://www.cultbeauty.co.uk/
This page is addictive as you find products there which are not available everywhere and this is something I like.
They don't sell the body but the massage oil which is even better (ingredients are exactly the same). I just rub a bit onto my skin and the scent is surrounding you within seconds. For me always a short time-out and also nice to calm down before I sleep. I love this scent!
Thursday, October 25, 2012
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Since I started I see that people are reading my posts but I can't get a feeling on if you like what you read or not. Please feel free to comment, I'm happy to get feedback in any way. If negative I may improve as the reader is focusing differently on posts than the writer. So comments are really welcome ☺
The right place, the wrong time…
The right place, the wrong time…
Does this really exist? I strongly believe that we are always where we should be and things happen if they should happen so this sentence makes no sense for me. What I experienced so far is that everything what happened had a deeper sense. Even if we don't catch it directly in the second, afterwards I found out what things were good for. If you have faith in life and believe that there is something/someone guiding us, where should be the right place during the wrong time? We wouldn't be there if its wrong. From my point of view we are at places exactly at that time we have to be there - OK, I'm not talking about being late for scheduled dates because of ridiculous reasons like not have a dry nail polish in time - it's about life in total and we are led to the places where we have to be. Even if it seems as if everything is going wrong or into the wrong direction it will teach us lessons. As soon as this is understood many thing are more clear, maybe not easy to handle, but we have an idea on how to handle them, change them, revert our habits and so on. I love to learn and to gain new views on everything life is about and when I started to be more cautious, more curious, more keen to know it gave me a different kind of thinking. We should embrace and cherish what we have instead of reaching for the stars as often the stars are already present but we are just too blind to realize. Life is learning until the end and that's what is making it so special.
Be faithful and trust in life, I believe that's the key.
Does this really exist? I strongly believe that we are always where we should be and things happen if they should happen so this sentence makes no sense for me. What I experienced so far is that everything what happened had a deeper sense. Even if we don't catch it directly in the second, afterwards I found out what things were good for. If you have faith in life and believe that there is something/someone guiding us, where should be the right place during the wrong time? We wouldn't be there if its wrong. From my point of view we are at places exactly at that time we have to be there - OK, I'm not talking about being late for scheduled dates because of ridiculous reasons like not have a dry nail polish in time - it's about life in total and we are led to the places where we have to be. Even if it seems as if everything is going wrong or into the wrong direction it will teach us lessons. As soon as this is understood many thing are more clear, maybe not easy to handle, but we have an idea on how to handle them, change them, revert our habits and so on. I love to learn and to gain new views on everything life is about and when I started to be more cautious, more curious, more keen to know it gave me a different kind of thinking. We should embrace and cherish what we have instead of reaching for the stars as often the stars are already present but we are just too blind to realize. Life is learning until the end and that's what is making it so special.
Be faithful and trust in life, I believe that's the key.
Tuesday, October 16, 2012
Crap TV
Crap TV
I don't know if its just a German phenomenon but during the past years the tv programm was becoming more and more crap and trash.
Where are all the good movies? Where are the interesting talks and discussions?
When I just start zapping through channels in the evening I hardly find anything interesting to watch. Instead of movies it's common to have tv shows, singing contests, problematic couples, youngsters, pets, news about catastrophes around the world and celebrity stuff.
I'm wondering which persons are keen to see all this as it seems to be the majority. TV channels are adapting their program to what people want to see. That's scary if you think about it. Which insane mind wants all this crap each day? Interesting topics are on late in the evening or even in the middle of the night. But the main question is what is happening to our society if that's the new "normal"? Are we losing our minds from generation to generation? I'm not that old to say sentences like "when I was young it was..." but I already found myself several times saying it. And if you look at people outside you already realize there was a change, which in first place isn't bad at all, changes are needed cause otherwise it would mean we stopped living, the problem is that these changes are not good ones. It's not only crap on TV, it's also just in front of your door when you step outside.
I'm living next to a school with children from twelve to sixteen years, when they have lunch breaks and you see them walking, talking, acting its like another planet. When I imagine myself at this age I was still almost a child, nowadays girls with thirteen look like eighteen or even more, dressed up in mini-mini-skirts, a make up like a parrot, smelling as if they just walked out of a perfume store, wearing the highest high-heels available. Is that the new normal? Every girl is the next top model of the world at this age because that's what they are taught on TV or the web. Boys are like gangsters, they have to be so cool and stylish, where stylish means the clothing out of the newest rap videos, and what they don't are allowed too is to show emotions, that would be the worst thing. They can have each girl as their new girl friend if they want, at least that's what they think.
The problem is from my point of view honestly the lack of possibilities. Parents have no ideas than to place them from sometimes the age of two onwards in front of the TV. And TV to learn what life is about cannot work at all. If I remember my childhood the TV was there but it was not the main part of my childhood. We went outside whenever it was possible, played in the garden, the small forest nearby or just strolled through the village. Collecting beetles in summer, eating corn directly in the field, all the stuff where I would say that's what children should do. Instead the society is keeping them inside, in summer is too hot, in winter too cold, the surrounding isn't safe enough and the TV or play station is not disturbing the adults in their daily routine. If that's really the new normal I will be an awful future mom, I'm sure that my child will not be allowed to watch stupid stuff the whole day. I want it to know how grass smells or a beetle looks like, I want it to activate its fantasy to play instead of reading instructions of the new computer game. And TV will be a hard battle, fortunately all nice movies for children are available as DVDs but for the crap on TV there will be no way, at last as long as I'm in charge of it.
Go outside, read books, choose carefully what to watch on TV, communicate, love, surround yourself with thinking mind, this may beware us of getting "crap" people...
I don't know if its just a German phenomenon but during the past years the tv programm was becoming more and more crap and trash.
Where are all the good movies? Where are the interesting talks and discussions?
When I just start zapping through channels in the evening I hardly find anything interesting to watch. Instead of movies it's common to have tv shows, singing contests, problematic couples, youngsters, pets, news about catastrophes around the world and celebrity stuff.
I'm wondering which persons are keen to see all this as it seems to be the majority. TV channels are adapting their program to what people want to see. That's scary if you think about it. Which insane mind wants all this crap each day? Interesting topics are on late in the evening or even in the middle of the night. But the main question is what is happening to our society if that's the new "normal"? Are we losing our minds from generation to generation? I'm not that old to say sentences like "when I was young it was..." but I already found myself several times saying it. And if you look at people outside you already realize there was a change, which in first place isn't bad at all, changes are needed cause otherwise it would mean we stopped living, the problem is that these changes are not good ones. It's not only crap on TV, it's also just in front of your door when you step outside.
I'm living next to a school with children from twelve to sixteen years, when they have lunch breaks and you see them walking, talking, acting its like another planet. When I imagine myself at this age I was still almost a child, nowadays girls with thirteen look like eighteen or even more, dressed up in mini-mini-skirts, a make up like a parrot, smelling as if they just walked out of a perfume store, wearing the highest high-heels available. Is that the new normal? Every girl is the next top model of the world at this age because that's what they are taught on TV or the web. Boys are like gangsters, they have to be so cool and stylish, where stylish means the clothing out of the newest rap videos, and what they don't are allowed too is to show emotions, that would be the worst thing. They can have each girl as their new girl friend if they want, at least that's what they think.
The problem is from my point of view honestly the lack of possibilities. Parents have no ideas than to place them from sometimes the age of two onwards in front of the TV. And TV to learn what life is about cannot work at all. If I remember my childhood the TV was there but it was not the main part of my childhood. We went outside whenever it was possible, played in the garden, the small forest nearby or just strolled through the village. Collecting beetles in summer, eating corn directly in the field, all the stuff where I would say that's what children should do. Instead the society is keeping them inside, in summer is too hot, in winter too cold, the surrounding isn't safe enough and the TV or play station is not disturbing the adults in their daily routine. If that's really the new normal I will be an awful future mom, I'm sure that my child will not be allowed to watch stupid stuff the whole day. I want it to know how grass smells or a beetle looks like, I want it to activate its fantasy to play instead of reading instructions of the new computer game. And TV will be a hard battle, fortunately all nice movies for children are available as DVDs but for the crap on TV there will be no way, at last as long as I'm in charge of it.
Go outside, read books, choose carefully what to watch on TV, communicate, love, surround yourself with thinking mind, this may beware us of getting "crap" people...
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